Relent control and fall in love with someone or something? Cynically speaking, being deeply in love is the most powerful and natural drug out there.
Inherent to "loving" is the ability to balance your connection to a thing with the limits of your boundaries and trajectories. It's that old saying, "if you love something, then let it go". If you love something, you also have the understanding that it lives its own "life", that you cannot control it and that it cannot control you. So, in loving, you'll have to accept that the thing which is loved is not you but is itself. You cannot encapsulate it.
(I realize this comment might have been intended as a joke, but this sort of bitter humor is often a symptom of real cynicism.)