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The fact that you created an account just moments before taking a dig at me only reinforces the idea that this is absolutely not a good faith comment by you.
There are lots of things that can cause a conversation to go sideways. It's really common for the group to then blame the person at the center. It only serves to compound and entrench the problem.
... any more than psychiatrists are stupid and malicious for acting in accordance with the norms of their profession.
In both cases, people can be wrong without being stupid/malicious, and likewise, people can be wrong whilst adhering firmly to the status quo.