However how is the "Unread message" status icon, the notifications and e-mails about pings that are sent by default (Yes, you can deactivate them) not an indicator that by default Slack wants you to look into the program as often as possible.That's a good point, I know the nagging feeling you speak of just looking at my own iPhone and some of the messages that have queued up for my attention.
I'm not sure if there is really a way to reconcile that against our FOMO tendencies that technology seems to only be exacerbating-so I will concede that point but only so much. Yes the technology exacerbates the need to check in and remain accessible even across high latency channels (like distance, time zones, etc), but IMO only in the way that gravity also exacerbates the possibility that you will smash your finger with a hammer when trying to drive a nail.
One can admit that they might smash a finger when trying to drive nails, but they would still reasonably operate the hammer in a way that minimizes smashed fingers while still using the tool for its intended and designed purpose. I propose a similar view for our communication stacks.