Years ago I was at a Chipotle and while chowing down looked at my cup. They had an interesting text there, called "2 minute personality test" by Jonathan Safran Foer. I loved that test because, for the first time, I saw in print a question that I had thought about many times before, which this post made me remember: "Are bonsai cruel?" (The test has many other great questions, google it).
Is forcing your will on something to make it more beautiful (shaping trees is called espalier, btw) a good thing? How about the similar question for people? Is forcing your child to take piano lessons knowing (or hoping) that s/he will thank you in the future cruel?