This is fine as an ethics or description of good manners.
The problem is that it is often turned into a politics.
The logic of this kind of identitarian social critique, insofar as it becomes political, is decidedly illiberal.
It is authoritarian.
But all of this is nothing new! In fact it's about 30+ years old.
It originates in the aftermath of the failed revolution of the 1960s--in other words, it appeared as a phenomenon of the dissolution of the New Left in the 1970s-1980s.
Some see its origins in the Maoist practice of self-critique. I think it's better understood as the response to the realization that the New Left's politics was no longer viable--that its historical potential was completely exhausted.