So there's two high-confidence bets we can make about alien life:
(1) They will probably share huge swaths of the basic chemistry and machinery: proteins, sugars, starches, fats, and even more surprising things like cell walls and digestive acid and (something like) DNA. The building blocks of life are basic chemistry, and are some combination of "the simplest possible molecule that can do a thing" and "things that arise naturally from inorganic processes".
(2) There will almost certainly be 0% overlap in terrestrial and alien DNA, even assuming aliens use DNA and use the same four amino acids to encode their DNA and even assuming they have identical proteins and cellular structures. This is because the encoding from DNA to proteins is more-or-less arbitrary, and determined by both the exact cellular machinery used to turn DNA into proteins and by our genetic history. Even in our own cellular machinery, different DNA sequences can code for the same protein, so you can encode any individual protein in a bajillion different ways. The only real reason for to different organisms to share any common DNA sequences is because they both derive from a common ancestor. If our DNA and alien DNA overlap in any meaningful way, even with the tiniest of percent, it's basically conclusive proof of exogenesis of some sort.
So basically, it is very likely we'll be able to eat aliens (probably no more or less likely than how likely it is you can eat any particular plant or animal on Earth, to be honest), and almost impossible that we could ever hybridize alien and terrestrial plants and animals.