For example, for myself, while I'm young and healthy, I want the world to know: if I get dementia someday, LIE TO ME. Lie your ass off. If I can't think for myself, I just want to be kept happy in a blissful illusion. If you can get an AI robot to keep me as a pet, that would be ideal.
"It might be possible to deal with the problem of lying and dementia by means of advance directives. People already specify what sorts of medical treatment they want and don’t want in the future, in case they later lose the capacity to make those decisions; could they not also specify how they want to be treated in other ways? Someone who most values happiness, however simple, might choose lies and medicine; someone who feels that life with late-stage dementia, without a certain degree of awareness, is not worth living might choose truth and death. The trouble is, advance directives themselves bring up all kinds of problems in the context of dementia. Suppose a woman signs a directive that she is not to be lied to but, at a later stage of the disease, suffers terrible bereavement each day as a consequence--should her family feel obliged to respect her wishes? Or suppose a man believes that life with late-stage dementia is not worth living, and signs an advance directive to have all medical treatment withheld, even antibiotics, once he reaches that point; but then, when he does reach it, he seems very happy with his life--he still enjoys visits (even if he can’t identify the visitor), his meals, beloved music, walks in the sun. Should his directive be respected, ending his life?
"The late philosopher Ronald Dworkin believed such advance directives should be respected. People don’t just live for pleasure, he argued; they also want to preserve their dignity, and to feel that their life as a whole has integrity and coherence. When people dread the total dependency of late-stage dementia, they don’t just dread its effect on others; they dread the way it warps the shape and story of their life. For some, the prospect that they might live their last years content with childlike pleasures, kept happy with benevolent lies, would not be a relief but a horror. In the case of such a person, Dworkin believed, it is no more legitimate or kind to contradict their advance directive in late-stage dementia than it would be if they were in a permanent vegetative state.
"Dworkin assumed that the man who dreaded late-stage dementia and the one who is perfectly happy are the same person. But what if the happy person can no longer remember anything about the man he once was--is he still the same person in any meaningful sense? And, if not, is it right to end his happy life in order to preserve the dignity of, in effect, somebody else? Also, does it make a difference what his family thinks about this? Whether they feel, in the later stages, that the person they loved is gone; or whether they feel that that person, though much changed, is still there--still recognizable in his body, in his smell, in his eyes, in his hands when held, in some of the things he appears still to delight in? Why should a person be defined by thoughts and memories? Aren’t emotions and bodies enough?"
That's the big ethical/philosophical conundrum of planned euthanasia. Is a personal decision made by the person who still had all their faculties of thought still valid when that same person is suffering from dementia and can no longer relate to that decision?
This is a highly personal matter, and the choice may well best be left to individuals (who can choose to defer to their loved ones as well), but that would imply accepting that some people will get to set the conditions for a facilitated death, and have those honoured.
In the Netherlands this is an ongoing topic for debate, with a couple of recent cases highlighting the difficult position this type of euthanasia places carers and family — although not acting on the express wishes of their loved one emburdens them in no less a manner.
Part of the solution may be a shift in society's perception of a self-chosen death, in that it becomes much more accepted; something that has been happening for the past two decades in countries where euthanasia is possible.
For two reasons: First they said they didn't want this life and second, hospitals are ill equipped to deal with elderly with dementia. Usually it is a horror trip for those individuals and they come back in a much worse condition than when they were admitted.
With dementia some people revert into a blissful state of ignorance, while for others every day is a new day awakened into a nightmarish state of constant agitation, anger, confusion, and loss. Often this is a state that no amount of therapy or care can address. Couple that with a strong body, and you can be kept 'comfortably' alive for a decade or more. Hardly a humane solution to not wishing to allow people to choose their own death.
It also means that in countries with that view codified in law, anyone wishing to avoid that level of personal hell will have to commit suicide long before the need is there — depriving themselves and loved ones of an unknown length of time spent as they please.
Spend some time with dementia patients and you'll quickly realize the issue.
Any VR would have to be able to determine current cognitive ability to not cause as much frustration and harm as relief.
I had much better time with him like this, than seeing other families who were trying to be 'grown up' and have serious conversations. YMMV. Dementia is awful.
Not being able to recognize oneself from a mirror and being spooked by stranger in the mirror. Shadows or even floor lamp in the corner may be scary person. The rest of life can become scary hell where you don't know what is going and where you are. Even very peaceful persons become aggressive when they are confused and scared.
Forget VR. If I get Alzheimer I want euthanasia or drugs. Maybe gradually increasing opiates that take all pain away and I eventually stop breathing at night.
Well, anyway with some kind of universal levels or standards in place, there is this new level of awareness, and everyone has a more helpful point of reference rather than trusting random bullet points on a facility flyer, or whatever.