Being in charge does not excuse bad behaviour. It's the same argument that allowed people like Weinstein and Moonves to get away with their bad behaviour for so long.

The fact is that open source projects rely on people. And we need those people to feel like they aren't going to have to tolerate bad behaviour just to be involved in the project.

So if I start a project, and thousands of people come and contribute to it, spent millions of hours working on it, I can call any one of them a ducking idiot whenever I want, because it's my project and if you don't like it you can duck off?

Because if so, I think I can see what's gone wrong...