That may be a good thing.
Most people would feel discomfort [from your attempt to pick them apart]. In this case you would learn not to speak with them.
Some other people would enjoy thoughtful discussion with you. These would be your new friends.
But if you try to put your polite mask on - it would be hard for you to find new friends, even if there are matching people at that party.
I for one, appreciate effort and am willing to reciprocate. If he don't explain me why my favorite shows are dumb, I will not insult his shows.
You also assume that people who take others apart don't mind the same being done to them. In my experience, they typically like to pick apart others, but can't handle being picked apart.
Yes. cryoshon even states in his post that he wouldn't want to be around a person like himself. So he's only allowed to interact with masochists who like being constantly criticized while never criticizing back, because anything else would be "fake"?
Such people are not competent to pick apart others, because they did not polish their criticism against the feedback they receive.
I, personally, like both: find mistakes in other people mental models and people finding mistakes in my mental models.