1. Smoke less. I had the paranoia and uncomfortable feeling problem for a long time and eventually I learned to just know when to say enough. In a group setting people tend to smoke a LOT, because some people have really high tolerance. I usually do a few puffs and then I'm good for a few hours... and then I eat some food, pass out, and sleep like the dead until morning. It is GREAT.
2. Go for strains with lower THC and higher CBD content. CBD is what produced the relaxed feeling and is in some clinically-approved drugs.
OR, don't smoke! I personally enjoy it but to each their own.
This. Seriously. Being just a little high can be really fun!
It’s so easy to just keep smoking until you’re a fucking mess, especially if you’re someone who used to smoke more. I feel like smoking all the time is very unhelpful for me, so I smoke rarely these days, and when I do I just smoke a tiiiny bit.
I think this may be a much, much more mild version of the phenomenon where opiate users who get used to a particular dose, quit for a while, relapse, use their prior dose, and die. You get a “serving size” in your head, and for those of us who have smoked quite a bit of weed in the past it’s easy to be like yeah sure I’ll go ahead and smoke this half gram joint and then I’m fucking ruined and not happy about anything.
But overall I’m with the grandparent; habitual smoking feels like a terrible habit to me and does NOT correlate with me reaching my goals. It most certainly does not help with my depression — quite the opposite.
Accept that this will take time, and you won’t feel really normal for a while, but you will feel OK again.
I meditated on the differences I felt when high and not. Getting beyond the physical sensations, which are very nice, the biggest difference was that I was able to relax my mind and enjoy things when high. When I was high, I was not eating an apple and worrying about my daily/weekly/big-picture stresses. I was just eating an apple. I already knew that this was preferable on an intellectual level, but getting high allowed me to feel it - to know that it was actually like.
The first time I quit, I had not practiced enough to enact this in my non-high state. Even though I knew I wanted it, I let my thoughts hurt me. This last time, I had practiced/meditated enough to naturally be in the state of just enjoying an apple (btw - I don't just eat apples all day). Enjoying nature, taking walks, and my interests/passions also help a lot.
I don't know if that will be helpful to you, but I hope it is :^)
But no worries, there's always booze!
I don't understand why "potsplaining" is so prevalent: whenever I indicate that I can't have marijuana, I'm told I'm being stupid, that it's all in my head and it's due to a wide sample of armchair diagnoses of a psychological state on my behalf.
Telling people that they have to, or should, smoke marijuana is on exactly the same intellectual footing as telling people that they can't - sans medical reasons on both ends of that spectrum.