She has some examples that are pretty explicit examples of misogyny. May be worth rereading.
I honestly don’t understand the whole fuss over SO being (apparently) unwelcome, though I’ve had one negative experience: my answer was downvoted by another poster, only later to be accepted and voted over his. He then angrily commented on my post. Sure, it’s anecdotal, but every other experience has been positive.
I think it’s also worth mentioning how much more toxic other communities can be in comparison. GitHub issues can get pretty heated, and the Mathworks boards are notorious for being rude.
At the end of the day, I’d bet the majority of new users getting flack do so because, well, they just asked a bad question.
Misogyny sort of requires an actual women being treated in a way a man would not have been treated.
My best guess is that taking offence to this joke requires priming, driven by ideology, someone explicitly telling you that you should take offence out of principle.
The better jokes exposes our biased generalizations and makes you think though.
This is fundamentally incorrect. One can be a misogynist (ie, exhibit misogyny) without any "actual" women being present. In much the same way as saying "i am attracted to my own gender" is to be homosexual (ie, exhibit homosexuality).