I define my past loneliness as: Negative feelings, fed by:
- feeling bad in the first instance
- feeling powerless to improve my state
- feeling that others could improve my state, if only they would show sufficient interest in me
Gaining power to work on why I was feeling bad in the first instance (through health and lifestyle interventions) has had several effects over the years:
- it has improved my state so that I mostly feel good
- it has taught me many valuable things to share with others
The social aspect of my life has radically changed:
- I feel less dependent on others to feel good
- I have many things to share with others and enjoy sharing it
- My attitude and knowledge attracts others
- I am mentally/emotionally stable enough to withstand the ambiguities and stresses that relationships tend to give rise to
I don't claim to have solved loneliness, but I have solved my loneliness and I hope some will be helped by this insight.