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> without accidentally harassing anyone (that I know of)

Wasn't this always the biggest problem: People not knowing. I also didn't get any problems and I'm close to your age - but I listened to a lot of stories from my wife in which people were doing things that may be considered offensive or even harassment, and without knowing.

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No the biggest problem is men actively harrasing women because they can easily get away with it. Ask any woman you know about their experiences some time.

Yeah, I updated my comment before seeing yours, and it now touches that subject as well. She is usually sure that the offending person doesn't know what they are doing.

If you are accidentaly doing something wrong and you find out you will hopefully apologise and change your behavior.

All the big metoo cases, for example, are not people who didn't know. They are people who were activly predatory over many years. The accidents aren't what are being targeted here. It's mostly men activley and knowingly abusing the fact that they can get away with it.

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