"“The more guys, the less safe the girl is. When there are other men in the room [for sex], it’s like the men are competing with each other, and they get rougher, so the girls can get really hurt.“"
Not much need for bigotry to see that if people get "really hurt" in an inter-company bonding event, something must be wrong.
I disagree. IMO consensual sex is fine (however BDSM it is), non-consensual sex is bad. Arguing the degree of badness, while sometimes useful, is (1) not relevant to the above discussion, and (2) a second-order effect, so vastly less important anyways.
But when it isn't consensual, the harm done makes the situation that much worse.
What about the ones who were forced into it?