I agree on the trade show front. I feel like the worst offender is LPKF: I've come close to losing a significant fraction of my client base
twice because several clients insisted that $100-200k capex/support expenses were worth slightly faster (theoretically) prototyping speeds and the vastly higher NRE of
learning how to design for the damn thing. We ended up sending 90% of the boards to a third party assembler anyway - delaying the completion of the project two months past my initial estimate with twice as many revisions as I had predicted. Literally the worst project of my career was caused by inability to say no to flashy new tech.
Twice (Yeah, still bitter).
On the other hand, I designed a STM32F4 based design last year and it was glorious. SnapEda for all symbols/footprints, Altium design vault for a specialized FPGA design, and github for a STM32 reference design PCB file using the same layers/copper weights as my requirements with imported fab design rules for good measure. The PCBs cost like $1500 and assembly was only $1600. 10 years ago I used to pay that much per single board in quantities of 30, for roughly the same complexity. This time, the whole thing (minus firmware) took a weekend.
Good luck with your mfg! If you have a chance, please blog about your experiences. There arent enough people spreading the art of solder.