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It's also massively dependent on the person. People like me, yes it really is that simple. I naturally don't even care about eating, and my metabolism seems quite active, as it's hard for me to even gain weight. My wife on the other hand, even just mentally, is another ball game. Food is a big part of her life, even just speaking emotionally. Then of course you have her cycle, which causes her normal urges to ramp up to 7->10.

Also, eating.. pickiness too. I don't mind leftovers, hell I don't even mind eating the same thing for a week, two, etc. She hates leftovers and always wants freshly cooked. Also rotating food types, as it can't be too similar to what she ate recently.

All combined it means that finding hearty meals (and now keto for us) are more effort for her than for someone like me. To no surprise, I have no weight to lose (I need to workout to even maintain weight), but it really frustrates her at how different our bodies are.

She considers her food habits to be an "addiction" in large part due to how different her and my reactions are to food. Her struggles are far more than mine on this front.

When I was a bicycle messenger I had to eat stupid amounts of food. I needed 4-5000 calories a day. I had to eat two dinners every evening, one after work and one before bed. If I didn't get enough calories down during the day I would wake up in the middle of the night with my body screaming at me to EAT!, and like a zombie I would head into the kitchen and make a box of Kraft Dinner with a cup of butter and inhale it.

I did that for 2 years, and afterwards I developed an aversion to eating, I just got so sick of having to gorge myself at every meal, and never being able to go more than a few hours without thinking about food.

A bit off topic; I'd actively not eat two or three meals a day if I could. I don't find it enjoyable generally, just a waste of time. I love food, but I don't always eat the food I love, so the ones I'm not loving I'd just rather not eat lol. Generally it's not worth the time or money to me.

I'm the type of person Soylent advertises to. I even made my own for a ~year. Keto (mostly low carb for me, not keto) has been a massive boon though. Fats just leave me so much more sated and stable. I highly recommend it if you don't like to eat or want to eat more dense meals.

Simple is not the same thing as easy. Mostly "diet plans" are basically psychological tools to help you do a difficult but simple thing.

Yes, I did not say easy. I guess my point was, for my wife it's not that simple.

For me, it is that simple. My point was that for my wife, there are a ton of other considerations she deals with. Sure, they're mainly in her head (though possibly other factors such as gut biome play a role), but large she has more details to factor in when she thinks about "will I be able to do this?". I on the other hand don't. For me, it's exactly as the author described, simple.

Yes, simple does not mean easy, but saying quitting smoking is simple to a smoker is not an honest assessment of their situation.

Most things in life are simple if you ignore reality and speak of life from a bubble.

I would disagree on that. Quitting smoking is a fairly simple thing, but it can also be a very hard thing to do. Such is the nature of addiction. So as such I find it very honest to say it is simple but hard, and focus on what makes it hard.

Somebodies reaction to a hard thing may be complex, but that is more about them than the thing. Although as you note, there is a risk of oversimplifying (e.g. your example of possible implications of gut biome, but that doesn't really shift the fundamentals).

The reason I think this distinction is a good one to make is the problem with the converse. If something being hard implies it is complex, it will lead often to people generating extraneous complexity around it which makes it actually more difficult for the people involved, and can lead to very convoluted thinking and errors in that thinking. You need only look at the massive industries built around things like weight loss and quitting smoking to see examples of this (not that everything in those industries is nonsense, but they do contain a lot of profitable nonsense).

This had nothing to do with bubbles. The risk is that instead of supporting people in doing a hard thing, we raise false hope of making it easy.

Aren't most things "simple" by that definition though? It's all about specificity, right? Quitting smoking is simple, if you don't talk about ways to overcome addiction. Becoming rich is simple, just get lots of money - simple if you ignore all the complexities of the underlying problem.

That's why I felt my situation and my wife's differed. Mine was simple because there wasn't an underlying pile of complexity. Her underlying "addiction" and etc are noteworthy items in her list of things she needs to do. It's simple if you ignore the problems, but if she wants to actually implement that simple instruction she needs to figure out the little details that affect her.

So yes, it is simple if we're not talking about her situation with context and reality. Mine is simple in all contexts, in my opinion.

Smoking is a good example imo on where our opinions differ. Smoking is super far simple in my mind, because many people can't just stop smoking (or rather, lack the willpower). So they need additional data, the simple instruction was.. imo, not so simple.

Many things are not simple by that definition or any other, and it is not about specificity. Some problems are inherently complex, some are not. It is often true that hard problems are hard because they are complicated but some things are just hard even if they are simple.

You are basically promoting the idea that I am rejecting, that because people find things difficult and have a lot of complicated reactions to it, that means the underlying problem is itself must be complex. I don't believe that is either true or useful, and argue that it can often make the problems themselves worse by muddying the water.

Some problems are complicated but relatively easy. In this case, if you just find "the right trick" you can solve it without much difficultly. We do people a disservice when we pretend that simple-but-hard problems are actually complicated-but-easy. This is something that is often done, for commercial gain, in industries like weight loss and smoking cessation. At core, I am arguing that this is a bad thing.

At any rate, we've probably reached diminishing returns here.

Appreciate your input regardless. Challenging my understanding is appreciated :)

Likewise!

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