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Simple question: But is this a positive? For the dads? The moms? And most importantly, the kids?

More is more. More is not better.

I don't imagine these kids growing up saying "I wish my dad hadn't spent so much time with me." Maybe in the helicopter parent sense, but an increase in quality time with your dad doesn't necessarily mean a decrease in independent play, or child-led play. If it does, then I would likely be concerned as there is mounting evidence that decreasing independence is not good for kids.

Whether the kids would say that or not is (semi) irrelevant to my point.

You are a by-product of your parents. What you've learned from them - about life, as well as a model of parenting - often carries forward. The problem is this: you wanting to share what you've learned doesn't mean what you learned is worth sharing.

In short, for some percentage of these kids, this increase could be bad news.

The question is: How many? And in what way?

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