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I would seriously hope that modern therapists would do their utmost to push back on any idea of virginity as an indicator of human value - an idea that comes from the idea of women as property and successor machines.

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It's a value because the more people you've been with the less likely you'll stay with the one you have. However, therapists should be pushing back on the idea that we need to focus on bad things that happened to us in order to be released from them. It is simple enough to see - and one of the reasons why eastern practitioners still laugh at staunch western scientists.

> It's a value because the more people you've been with the less likely you'll stay with the one you have.

a) You are conflating rape with sex. Why would being raped be the same thing, at all?

b) Everyone I've seen talk about this has been referring to charts showing increased non-marital partners correlates to divorce, but you are talking about pre-marital partners, where divorce rates actually start going down after a few partners.

> It's a value because the more people you've been with the less likely you'll stay with the one you have.

Maybe in the same way that "the more food you try, the less likely you'll stay with Mcdonalds".

Being discerning, honest and moving on if things don't work out is much better than the alternative, for everyone involved.

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