> Why would you want to pay someone to make something important to you like a wedding cake if they clearly do not want to?
You assume they wanted to get the cake. If you assume instead they wanted to get the baker - either in advance (knowing he'd refuse because of his beliefs that he didn't exactly hide), or after the refusal which offended them - then all of it makes perfect sense.
> I realize it is a matter of principle for both sides but why do both political wings in the US feel compelled to force those with opposing belief systems to comply with their belief system?
Because they can? Obviously it is pleasant (at least for some people) to have others to bow to your moral superiority, even more pleasant if you can do it using the vast powers of the government. I mean, a lot of people spend sleepless nights arguing with somebody wrong on the internet. Now if they have a chance to actually do something about it - like making being wrong punishable, make those outgroup bastards suffer, make them not have their wrong opinions anymore or at least be afraid to have them openly - why wouldn't many people take it? Experience proves they would.
> Tolerance goes both ways, if someone is being a jerk to you avoid them don't bully them into doing things your way.
That's the old way, unfortunately. The new way is if you think somebody is being a jerk, you are allowed to be as much jerk as you want to them, and then some, because you're Fighting For The Right Side. Yes, I don't like it either, but I don't see any significant cultural backlash against it. On the contrary, I see only more escalation of jerk-ness.