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> I avoid Vox articles due to the unsubtle feminist ideologies

> (...) recent cringe Vox interview with Jordan Peterson that kept trying put words in his mouth

> (...) I see no future for myself outside of being someone's mortgage hound or alimony sugar daddy.

That escalated quickly!

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I feel this too. Most of my cis male friends won't date people that will make less money than them. I know I won't.

Is your intention to have a partner that walks in lockstep through career paths over the course of a long career?

How do you intend to deal with illness, career changes & family raising?

I think lower earning person can make up by doing extra chores and house work. That's what I do now. Not sure how fair that is but I think it's fair.

Yup. Most men will actually marry down economically, but women generally marry up economically. Perhaps when this is finally noticed, men will only marry their equals. With women graduating college at higher rates, perhaps this changes?

https://www.smh.com.au/opinion/marrying-down-why-men-are-the...

> Most men will actually marry down economically, but women generally marry up economically.

If the first phrase is true, then the second must also be.

Of course we're conflating income with wealth (or 'economical value'), which may be fraught.

> Perhaps when this is finally noticed, men will only marry their equals.

I think asking all men to think the way you think is going to be disappointing.

I also think that proposing the evaluation of people based on income and/or economic potential is breathtakingly depressing.

My wife prefers a career working with autistic children, and earns much less than I do as a software developer because of that preference. She is amazing and I want to enable her to do whatever she is happiest doing using the money I am fortunate to be earning, as much as she is willing to let me help. You're looking at other human beings as merely economic objects and that's not going to net you happiness long-term. Consider each human you meet on the merits of their character, not their wallets...

This thread is ridiculous. Come back to earth, get out and meet real people.

> You're looking at other human beings as merely economic objects

I don't mean to be offensive but don't you think she considered your earning potential while choosing you as her husband?

There is nothing wrong with doing it, ppl have beeen doing it forever. Nothing immoral about it. It does go into the equation.

My wife cares very little about money. She developed her own methods for getting the most out of life without it, and is always suggesting that I spend less of it. I've been able to show her the benefits of having extra money and she's been able to show me how to live well frugally (not that I'm a big spender in the first place).

Thats awesome man!. Congrats on finding a good mate.

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