Tampa, FL checking in. I make at the low end of total comp for a FAANG engineer ($150k-200k/year) in security, and we can afford for my wife to be a stay at home mom for two kids, 2600sq ft 4 bed 2.5 bath home with a pool and three car garage (~$250k), a part time nanny, a used Tesla, and frequent travel.
It would be impossible for me to replicate this on the coasts.