I also don't find any of the data that FB or Google have of me "disturbingly extensive" or that they have been "breaking laws" to get it.
I give them data so they can provide value to my life...it's as simple as that! If that deal doesn't work for you then you simply shouldn't use their products..nothing wrong with that.
I also personally prefer targeted ads over un-targeted ones btw. And I like using these services without having to pay for it...its a good deal!
I also want to add that, while you repeat popular believes, I have yet to see evidence for many/all of them and I would prefer you would either stay with the known facts or be more explicit about whats a personal opinion/internet myth. thanks