I totally get security/privacy vs. usability. I'm not trying to shoot you down btw. I just think we need to openly talk about these trade-offs or rather, make them clear to people who care about them (me).

Signal for example is great when it comes to confidentiality and actually easy enough to use so my mom messages me on signal, not so great when it comes to not leaking metadata. Nobody else I know uses Tox. But I know that when I use Signal it's a trade-off I'm fine with, but I'm aware of it.