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  Coworkers often have a comparable amount of contact with a person vs spouse.

You're not married, are you? The above statement is just so incredibly off-base I honestly don't know where to begin criticizing it.

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I understand what you mean. But the personality properties like agreeableness, extroversion, openness, should reveal themselves through behavior over time. Otherwise, what's the point in them? And, say, hi-tech work seems to provide enough opportunities, say over a year, to reveal all of them. This is what I meant by "contact".

Besides, have you not heard the "we do not spend enough time together" idea from a spouse? Not to glorify it, nothing good about it, but it seems to be the reality for more people than it should be.

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