Your own loneliness is your sole responsibility. If you don't have the information you need to do your job that is your manager's responsibility to remedy, but their job stops the instant you have the tools you need to do yours.
Your own loneliness is your sole responsibility. If you don't have the information you need to do your job that is your manager's responsibility to remedy, but their job stops the instant you have the tools you need to do yours.
I'm skeptical any successful business treats high-skilled employees that way.
You are expected to go in, head down, do your 8 hours work, go home. Non work stuff was expected to be kept to non work hours.
I've also worked at highly social workplaces, drinking on the job, people playing guitar in office, everyone going out for lunch together, everyone felt like a good friend (and even after leaving are still good friends).
I preferred the second, I'm not sure which was more productive though...
I think the 2nd waa great few years but it probably wasn't sunstainable and I kinda understand an employer would prefer me to be a code creating robot rather than a human.
YMMV, I find companies in the Midwest would rather you check your empathy at the door.
Maybe it's my Midwestern upbringing, but I'd rather just get my job done than be an emotional sop for my coworkers, or worse have other people be an emotional sop for me.
I don't think you have to be in THAT kind of relationship with coworkers.
- Terry Pratchett, Feet of Clay
And it's in the company's best interest: Turnover is extremely low, which means that knowledge and talent are retained. It makes business sense.
The culture in consulting has its problems, but things are getting better and we’re seeing a lot more women entering senior roles which is starting to fix some of the bad behavior that has traditionally gone on.
As for acting self-important? It takes a fucking ego to have a 27 year old kid tell a 50 year old SVP how to do his job. But as a result, people in consulting generally respect each others large egos, which gets you some degree of professionalism.
Here and now, in late capitalism, we seem to be aspiring to some other arrangement, which is commendable in itself, but I observe it with healthy skepticism. It is my responsibility to make myself happy. I'm lucky to have a boss who cares about my well-being, but I see his efforts as secondary and something to be leveraged in order to improve the company as a whole, not somehow make me happier as a person. I'll take care of that last part myself.
Edit: a late-breaking thought I would like to include. He who externalizes happiness is bound to be disappointed, as the incentive is simply missing to make others happy without asking for anything is return. Better learn to DIY happiness.
Socializing is for outside my 40 hours/week, with those I chose, not those my employer chooses. The touchy feely family feeling isn't for me.
At every job I've ever worked, you're paid for your output, not to socialize.
If the manager chooses to deliver business value by hiring humans instead of robots, the manager is obligated to care about the fact they are human and help them improve their productivity, to ensure that effort the company spends training the employee is not wasted if they lose morale and leave, and so forth.
A manager who ignores these responsibilities might be great at pursuing an ideal, but their job is not pursuing an ideal. Their job is delivering business value.
If the human you hire needs to socialize to be productive, that's no different from the printer you bought needing toner to be productive. Telling a printer without toner "You're paid for your output" is shirking your responsibilities.
(There are certainly a lot of managers—and a lot of businesses—that are more interested in pursuing some philosophy of how business should be run than effectively delivering business value. They are objectively wrong.)
> At every job I've ever worked, you're paid for your output, not to socialize.
Of course, but if socializing increases output, then aren't they the same thing?
The idea that you can just hire people who will never feel lonely (or have some other problems in their life) is in itself quite amusing.
There are three kinds of power in an organization role, expert, and relationship. Role power is actually the least effective and relationship power is the most.
It took me awhile to learn that. I've gotten a lot further in my career over the last 10 years than the 10 years before that based on building professional relationships and networks both inside and outside of work than I could have solely by becoming more of an "expert". I know people who are just as smart as I am and many who are better technically who haven't gotten as far because they don't build relationships, don't know how manage up, and can't interview well.
I work at a company that has grown and gotten very beuracratic. Other people on the team - including managers - who aren't as effective at getting things done because they have to go through official channels. I've been able to just send a message with a request directly to a person who I knew could do it, get it done and then go through the official process for documentation.
Management is not required to keep me happy, but I'm also not required to work there.
I don't socialize at work to gain friends, I socialize to gain allies. I've had 5 jobs over 10 years.
The funny thing is, for all your cynicism, the world is actually far bleaker than even you paint it. A manager sees being friends with your cow-orkers as a lever to extract unpaid overtime.