Tbh i think online dating is sort of a scam. If i meet girls irl theyll be staring at me and following me around while similar girls won't be that into me online (some will but fewer). I just make friends irl now to meet people.
Women get between ten and a hundred times more messages and contact requests than men do. The only practical way to deal with that is to ignore most of it, and that inevitably leads to false negatives.