While it's really just about to obey, and follow command.
People have to understand that they have to fit the soulless masses and have to be tested accordingly...
Thankfully, as a human being, you are not your ability to code. More importantly though, then it also means that people who can't code are worth just as much as you as human beings (more, if they've managed to learn social graces). If you don't hold it to be true, then code or GTFO.
Look for places like the Recurse center in NY that can help you find yourself in the context of being able to code, or more traditional non-traditional approaches like backpacking though India, or taking LSD in the Haight in the 60's (anyone got a time machine?).
If you'd like friends (who will be interested in your personality), go find some. Outside of work. Bonus points if you manage to find some that can't code.
Hint: companies are interested in your personality - if you come across as this caustic in a phone screen or in person interview, I'd be surprised if you get invited back. (Or at least they should be; Google's current HR woes are their own creation.)
While I can understand your leap to soulless masses - that was not my intention.
p.s. Even at the best companies there is some truth in what you say, but it varies a lot.