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I am on day 81 of a 90 day porn reset. It’s been hard at times but my real life sexual experiences seem greatly improved and I plan to continue abstinence from porn after the reset period ends. Seeing that I can modify behavior by setting attainable medium term goals has made me excited to tackle some other personal challenges too.

The site https://www.yourbrainonporn.com is what got me interested in trying to quit. Lots of good information there if you are interested.

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I wonder which one is better:

1) Quit Porn 2) Stop Masturbation

Any ideas?

I've tried quitting either for years, very much addicted. Or at least a very strong coping mechanism.

If you're anything like me, it's more or less impossible to quit one and have the other. Watching porn will eventually lead to masturbation and vice versa.

I've recently tried taking the half-measure of exclusively audio pornography (/r/gonewildaudio) - in an effort to see if I notice any changes in my perception of women or anything. Been on it exclusively for a few weeks now and I feel the same. If anything, I'm more tired since it takes much longer without the visual stimulation.

In the case of #1, you start to lose your association of fake or staged sex acts with real sex acts, and hopefully are able to re-educate yourself on what real sex is actually like.

In the case of #2, you deprive yourself of a completely natural pleasure.

I would put my bets behind quitting porn over stopping masturbation if the goal is to develop a healthy outlook on sex. I'd love to hear someone on the other side's thoughts though.

https://reddit.com/r/nofap is a community dedicated for (2).

Why not both? Let your SO be the only one who pleases you on this level, physically, mentally and emotionally. Ignore those voices that try to tell you that you can't be happy without these old ways of pleasing yourself. Your relationship will improve 100x, I speak from experience.

That only works if you have a SO, which isn't even necessarily what everyone wants.

Well sex kind of inherently requires an SO (however you choose to define "significant"), and porn inherently has to do with sex. Masturbation is trying to be your own SO, but sex inherently is a two-person job. I know these things are controversial these days, but they're pretty obvious and self-evident if you ignore recent ideologies and politics.

Ignoring your distasteful name for a moment; you have a very black-and-white view. 2 person job? Said who? 1 person sex, or 3 person sex, or more... Who says 2 is the only or even the best way?

The physical nature of human beings: a single penis fits into a single vagina, and that's how babies are made. It takes exactly two people for this to work. Sex can be done in other ways but this is the magic formula for sex to make a baby, and making babies seems to be the primary purpose of sex within nature. And my name isn't meant to be tasteful, it's meant to be honest. I committed the crime of public indecency and am a sex offender for life.

I think this is a very uninformed opinion. If what you said was true, there is no logical reason for why humans would have sex while they are already pregnant.

I won't even point out all the reasons your argument doesn't make sense, because it's clear you haven't thought about what it would mean if what you said was true. It just doesn't match up to real human behavior.

Quit porn for sure.

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