Is it even worth it? It's like buying a car in a city where average commute time is two hours. Diminishing returns, not worth it to have a car under those conditions.

Maybe a different region would have better balance, even at lower pay. I know people who own a newly constructed, large house with a garden, two cars, and raise kids in Romania on a meagre salary compared to yours. In the Bay area most of the profit and hard work goes to pay the exorbitant housing prices - just making the landlords and constructors rich.

Reminds me of Andrew Ng who expects "70-90 hours a week" from his employees, and is talking up "importance of velocity" with his new fund. That's 15 hours of work per day and one day off per week. Crazy! Why bother to do that, it would be a disaster for balanced life. (https://techcrunch.com/2018/01/30/andrew-ng-officially-launc...)