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Comment by simonsarris | Hacker News Reader

This is a strange way to be mean to your wife? I don't get it. EDIT: sorry! Somehow missed the "forget" part of the sentence.

I don't eat fruit, I don't like the taste. When I see dried mangoes, I buy them for my girlfriend because she loves them.

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>I don't eat fruit, I don't like the taste.

you can't be serious. you don't like any kind of fruit?

No malice is intended when I forget the avocados. I just forget them. And then I feel bad.

He forgot to buy them. He's not being mean, he's being human.

Forgetting to buy them, yes, that's human.

Trying to cover up instead of just saying "Sorry, honey, I forgot", that's at least tending toward mean.

People sometimes get unreasonable about the things that they love. I just assumed that he was attempting to deflect her potentially unreasonable reaction.

This person habitually attempts to deceive their wife, and from their own account describes her feeling antagonized. I don't think they are "forgetting avocados" so much as they are bullying their partner with plausibly deniable emotional abuse.

His wife forces him to be silent - which is actual abusive behaviour.

"stops speaking to me for a whole five minutes" != "forces him to be silent"

There is no abuse in this anecdote, either way. There's some passive-aggressiveness, and some dismissal, but neither quite rises to the level of abuse.

Oops I miss-read that.

I do find the fact that people are accusing him of abusive behaviour here pretty scarey though.

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