If FreeBSD was contacted early on, would we be hearing these gripes from some NetBSD or Dragonfly BSD developer? Maybe that's actually a reason BSD was contracted late, maybe they expected interested scrutiny from the other BSD projects from any kernel patches. Linux certainly ended up exhibiting that behavior, maybe they were worried about it there too but Linux's size meant a different call was made?
I understand why BSD devs are upset, but the complaining comes across as exactly what it is, whining they didn't get treated like the big boys. It sucks. Linux used to be right there with you, and neither got any special treatment, but times have changed.