You seem hung up on the fact that miners do not broadcast a fee as part of the protocol. Ok, nobody is arguing with that in this thread...
It is just like I will not pay $2000 for a cheeseburger. I am not going to advertise that, I simply will not buy it. There is some maximum price that I set for myself.
However, the role of difficulty adjustments is a better point. As energy costs rise there could be two (non mutually exclusive) effects:
1) Fewer transactions are made with higher fees
2) Mining slows down, leading to a difficulty decrease, leading to less secure transactions
Less secure transactions means waiting for more confirmations to get the same level of confidence there will be no double spend. Is this not another, less extreme, way to slow economic activity in the face of increasing energy costs?