So I think I understand and sympathize with the people who've come out about sex crimes or sexual harassment. There are some very serious, truly heartbreaking cases involving women who had to live in fear and had their future relationships ruined because of these terrible acts.

But honestly, it's getting to the point where asking a woman out for coffee seems like I might be harassing her.

I think there is a sexual dynamic that everyone avoids talking about, because exploring it in such public light would be taboo. How do we distinguish between what is primal, not yet understood when it comes to sexual dynamic (body language, looks, etc...) prior to engaging in an intellectual conversation, and the discomfort that women might feel when they are approached by an entity they deem as harassing?

I don't mean to confuse creepy and harassing, but I expect to be forgiven if I was 18, new to this world, and trying to get this to work without consciously ignoring all of these warning messages about harassment. It just seems like the solution is binary for the inexperienced. Either don't approach women, or approach them _hard_. The latter may cause some issues.

I also don't want to take away from the truly heinous sex crimes that are committed every day, but I think the lines need to be clearer for those of us not so sharp or experienced.