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Comment by autokad | Hacker News Reader

"Recently, I was following a thread on Facebook in which several men were debating the reasons for why it seems that men and women are drifting apart. "

politics. politics put a strong divide between white and black in the US. "vote for me, all your problems are because of white people, white privilege" etc. it drove both groups away from eachother like water and oil.

then that shifted between men and women, and I knew immediately what the outcome would be.

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The 500-ish of years of systemic impoverishment and using skin color as an indicator of class and human worth has caused that strong racial divide.

Not the relatively recent trend of politicians trying to correct that social injustice.

every race has experienced hardships, but its comments like that that divide people in group 1: 'i didnt succeed because of my skin color' and the other people from group 2: 'they are complaining they dont have enough because of their skin color, calling me privileged because of my skin color, when I have nothing either'.

you do nothing for the conversation, you only prolong the back and forth. We are in control of our own destinies and comments like yours convince people otherwise.

You should check out Ta-Nehisi Coates' "Between the World and Me." It's an interesting discussion of the above -- and somewhat more nuanced than would be possible in Hacker News comments.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25489625-between-the-wor...

>you do nothing for the conversation, you only prolong the back and forth

This is an important contribution - the back and forth has to be prolonged, it has to be argued endlessly, to change the status quo. Not everyone has to become a leader. Awareness is also good enough for many.

>We are in control of our own destinies

Yes we are, but the ease of control could be much better for many people than what it is today.

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