The ugly history of people of color outlined in one of the links in this discussion has some things in common with the outcomes women have.
But I don't really feel like arguing it. This is an overwhelmingly male forum. I increasingly feel it is pointless to try to give a female point of view here. It will be downvoted, dismissed and attacked. If The resist, I will be accused of behaving badly while the insults to me are treated like reasonable statements that I am simply overreacting to.
So, suffice it say, I don't agree with you. If you were correct, then women should have economic parity with men. They don't.
The exact details may vary a bit, but the feminization of poverty is a phrase in our lexicon for a reason. When people talk like it isn't real, I never know quite what to think of that. I have a really hard time accepting that people sincerely don't see something so obvious for which there is overwhelming evidence.
Yet I also realize it is obvious to me because I happen to be female. There are lots of details about the Black experience that I am inadequately aware of. So that gives me pause when it comes to trying to assess why men say such things. But I feel pretty worn down and hopeless of late.
> top 3 students of my graduating high school class ... > I failed to be a self made millionaire by age 30
Each year in the US there is around 900,000 students that will graduate in the top 3 of their high school class. Assuming that no other person in the nation would become millionaire, that is still way more than the number of new millionaires each year. Becoming a millionaire at some point in your life time after graduate in the top 3 is still a very rare event, and extremely rare if the target is to achieve it before the age of 30.
> feminization of poverty is a phrase in our lexicon for a reason. I have a really hard time accepting that people sincerely don't see something so obvious for which there is overwhelming evidence.
As evidence go, the the wast majority of the homeless are men. The bottom 1%, those that earn least and have least power and wealth in society are mostly men. Maybe those evidences are obvious to me because I happen to be male, but it would not be how I would phrase it. I don't think my gender give me any special insight to interpreting statistics or that there is a male point of view to it.
http://sandiegohomelesssurvivalguide.blogspot.com/2017/07/ge...
To counter some of the arguments in there. Men in general has smaller social network. Where the blog argues that friends and relatives are much more concerned about a woman being out on the street because women tend to have a much harder time on the street, the fact found from medical research and statistics is that those friends and relatives simply are not available to the same extent for men. Men at the bottom of society don't generally have a social support network where they can ask for help.
The blog claims that women tend to make less money than men when homeless. No they don't. Data on begging finds that society is the most generous when it comes to young women, and among people who beg in the street they are the highest earners. "able bodied men", refer to the abusive tactics of exploiting desperate people into dangerous low paying temporary jobs, sometimes illegal, and can be about as healthy as selling sex on the street. Its a common tactic heard from paperless which are bounced between illegal construction sites, sometimes sold like cattle.
The blogs claims that men choose to become homeless and women do not. That is victim blaming. No one choose to be at the bottom of the social ladder.
The blog briefly touch on the subject that society sometimes welcome women, even homeless and without any wealth or status to their name. As the blog points out this is mostly to do with sex, but what it miss is that comes from the cultural values in dating. Women are not primarily judged based on how much money they have, so homelessness is not as dooming factor as it is for men. Cultural values make it so that fewer women would ever consider dating a homeless man compared to the number of men who would consider dating a homeless woman.
I have no idea how you are getting that from the post at all. I also get really tired of being accused of victim blaming for trying to address complex subjects with a bit of nuance. It begins to feel to me like a cheap shot hurled by people who don't actually have a good rebuttal, so they figure mudslinging will suffice.
The point is not that men choose homelessness and women do not. The point is that choices made at the bottom of the social ladder are made within a particular context and this context varies some in part based on gender. Men and women make different choices in part because they are faced with different choices.
I happen to be the author of that piece. In addition to firsthand experience with homelessness, I had a college class on the subject many years before spending some time homeless.
I didn't give you the link to imply that a blog post somehow is more authoritative than me commenting on HN. Since I wrote it, it is exactly like if I wrote a long comment here, only it has already been previously written and that has certain advantages, like saving me time and, hopefully, having fewer typos and being perhaps a little more thoughtful because I had time to think through what I wished to say.
Your rebuttal about social networks strikes me as essentially a different way to make the same point. Poor men simply lack the option of staying with friends or family that so often keeps women from being literally on the street. Framing it as a rebuttal sounds intentionally and unnecessarily fighty.
Social support network is commonly used in medical research. The gender difference are seen in all levels of society, from rich to poor, and as such is not the same as the point you bring that friends or family are more likely to help a woman in need. Data on the size of social network (number of friends, contact with family and children, friend of a friend distance) is different for women and men. If all that was different was the rate that family and friend would offer help, then those numbers should be identical. According to some research, the difference in life expectancy between men and women are partially caused by the difference of social support during the elderly years. The cause of that in turn is generally blamed on gender roles and social expectations, where men are expected to prioritize work over building family and social ties and women expected to do the opposite.
All people make choices, even very poor people who are faced with nothing but bad options. In such a situation, the best you can do is try to choose the lesser evil. But it is really disingenuous and dehumanizing to act like homeless people make no choices whatsoever.
Talking about choices when all options are bad sounds like the wrong word. Naturally choosing the best option is good, but a bad option is still bad. Similarly talking about being empowered to pick the best option between an multitude of bad options sounds wrong. It might be correct when talking about a individual person, and from the sound of your comment it sounds like you made decisions based on your own values even when it cost you a place to stay, and that is strong.
Under the absolute worst circumstances, the right to choose is critical to one's ability to self advocate. It is a right routinely denied the poorest of the poor. It is a right I try to help preserve.
Social safety nets frequently disrespect the right of the individual to choose. They frequently dictate limitations on what you can and cannot do.
I tried to write about accessing support that does not impinge on your freedom.
I am aware it "sounds wrong" to a lot of people. That is exactly why I felt I needed to write about it.
My point was not that society is fair to women, and I'm sorry if it sounded like that. My point was that gender injustices are different from racial injustices because racial injustices are inherited while gender injustices are not. Once we get to a point where society is 100% fair racially and genderally, gender inequality will die out with the old generations, while racial inequality will live on due to its inherited nature.
Racial inequality is caused by current societal problems as well as past societal problems. But gender inequality is just caused by current societal problems.
The fact that women can get pregnant but men cannot has a huge raft load of implications that influence the attitudes and choices of both men and women. Women I have known who thought they could live their life like a man did fine until they had a baby, at which point their assumptions of independence and self determination had an unpleasant wake up call.
There may be things society can do to mitigate that reality, but most discussions I see of gender equality make zero effort to mitigate it. Instead, most people seem oblivious to its existence. This does not bode well for the possibility of creating policies that genuinely help level the playing field. I believe there are inherent challenges in creating good policies in this area, so it likely won't happen by serendipity.
The current result seems to be a growing divide between the quality of life for empowered women and disempowered women. That divide seems to be strongly influenced by reproductive choices in ways that are not obvious or straight forward.
Depends on how you measure it. Women have about 80% of the income of men, but they also have about 70% of total purchasing power (in the United States for both numbers). Women's disproportionate purchasing power comes from their tendency to make "family" purchases (in the majority of household, women do more errands than men) and to outlive men. This fact is well known in the advertising industry..
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Every statistic I've seen seems to indicate that modulo life choices that seem correlated with gender (ie, on average women prefer different things to men, though individuals vary greatly), there is economic parity between men and women (in most developed nations, but I'm most familiar with the US).
There are some very real issues with the direction that women are steered by society, but there are also some real issues that men face (eg, school, legal system, etc).
However, there's also a non-trivial number of women (in places like the US) who blame sexism for the consequences of choices they've had to make in life between things that they want, and seem to treat it as an affront to their gender that they're not treated as catered princesses by the world -- getting to have every want. And then hide that behind talking about "economic parity".
> The exact details may vary a bit, but the feminization of poverty is a phrase in our lexicon for a reason.
Doesn't this mostly have to do with poor women being forced to carry the economic burden of many children in developing nations?
It's also definitely not a common term to use -- which makes me think that you likely have a biased view from hanging out in a very polarized, niche crowd.
> But I feel pretty worn down and hopeless of late.
As a fellow human, are you sure you're not inventing a narrative that's worse than the truth, and then stressing yourself out battling phantoms? (This is something I do all the time, on issues small to large.)
There are real issues in the world -- quite serious ones, at that. But modern charities and other social purpose organizations deploy weaponized psychology meant to send you into an emotional state in order to boost their funding (or membership, but really power), and the consequence of everyone doing this "for the right reasons" is a completely toxic society, polarized in righteous anger over every issue to the point its emotionally burnt out and fragmented. This habit has even been exploited by foreign states to attack the nation. (True for virtually every country, and definitely all of the European and "Western" ones.)
This is quite possibly the best of times on any of those issues, so instead of worrying about how you're going to feed every woman in Africa with too many kids (hint: you won't), just try to focus on what's the next small step that you can take to fix one of the issue a little. Then do that.
That's something you can actually do right now, won't exhaust you even if you have to do it for the rest of your life, and would completely fix the problem if everyone would just stop panicking and do that.