Not to be blunt but why get the phone if it’s going to make your life miserable in a sense?
I'm not certain I'm getting the phone. But if I do, it'll be for the camera. It's my number one use case of my phone, and it seems like it's got a great camera. I know there are good alternatives from Android, but I'm largely married to the Apple ecosystem.
Often this is fine because the new stuff is unambiguously great. Sometimes it's miserable. That's life as an Apple customer.
So don't worry: the Apple upgrade cycle really isn't that bad.