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> Every act of infidelity, every time I have watched an adult video online,

How watching porn equates to cheat on your wife? Very weird moral compass.

I believe you're misreading that part of the post, as it goes on to list these as actions which wrong women in general. The writer is equating his viewing of porn to wronging women.

It's kind of a strange mea culpa, to be honest, as even in the most socially progressive of circles, pornography is a very divisive topic, with many finding it degrading and many finding it liberating.

edit: added a comma after "circles"

I don't think I've misread. I think his moral compass is broken and he doesn't know the difference between evil and harmless browsing.

Just because you mention two things together doesn't mean you equate them.

Yeah I've never understood that kind of thinking.

He's a man down right now and probably very emotional. Just a guess, but should have listened to his lawyer.

Also, U.S seem to have strange views on what is sexual assault. I don't know who is quilt or who is lying, but reading some of them are things I would avoid women over the ocean all together.

What do you mean exactly as "strange views on what is sexual assult?"

Are you getting it confused with sexual harassment? which we are also talking about in this thread.

I meant the whole idea that regret can be rape. Also the fact that if you have power, everything can be seen as a sexual assault

Regret is not ever rape. I question from what sources you are getting your information if you believe so. What can happen is that someone who was too intoxicated/incapacitated to give consent to sexual activity can make a complaint because sexual activity occurred without voluntary, freely given consent.

If you have power, many things can be considered harassment, which is different than assault. It's similar to the reasoning behind prohibiting psychological therapists from engaging in sexual acts with their patients.

Really, it's pretty simple. Make sure a person can give consent. Don't abuse your status to obtain sex. Don't rape.

You're very mistaken, regret is certainly not rape. I have absolutely no idea where you could have gotten that information from.

For the second point, you're confusing sexual harassment and sexual assault.

Not in the USA, it can't. Some darker corners of the internet say that's the case in Sweden, but even then they're mis-stating the case.

In the USA, even rape is often questioned as rape. We've had national politicians make false claims about "legitimate rape," and how rare that was.

In no case whatsoever is there any idea that "regret = rape," and if you've been led to believe that about the USA, you've been in some very disturbing places on the internet.

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