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I am just absolutely shocked by this
>I don’t have employees, I don’t cut checks for investment. None of the women who came forward were ever in a position where I could make or break their careers. Sexual Harassment requires that I have such power.
JFC, does anyone actually believe this? This is absolutely... Shocking. Disturbing... I have no words...
Shouldn't he have consulted with the EEOC before making such a bold statement?
https://www.eeoc.gov/laws/types/sexual_harassment.cfm
>The harasser can be the victim's supervisor, a supervisor in another area, a co-worker, or someone who is not an employee of the employer, such as a client or customer.
It just makes it seem like he has no idea what appropriate behavior is at all. Really takes away from his credibility. Makes me think he's a total creep but thinks it's other people who are the problem.
Also, it stood out to me it seems odd that he used "sexual harassment" as a proper noun.
I don't understand why they cant report harassment to law enforcement if its ' unlawful to harass a person '. Thats the only way to get justice in our society.
Yesterday my partner was harassed by a doctor. I asked if she wanted to file a complaint or report it to somebody. She simply looked disappointed and said that no it would be a pain and almost certainly accomplish nothing. Better to not see this doctor again and try to schedule appointments with female doctors when possible. This is because this sort of thing has happened to her dozens of times in her lifetime, reporting it has never worked, and she already has enough on her plate. She didn't want this to be the state of things, but was resigned to it.
Yes, this person will likely continue to be an asshole. But after people try so many times to do the right thing and are rebuffed we cannot keep expecting them to do the same thing over and over. It becomes one more thing to feel guilty about in these sorts of scenarios.
Whats the alternative though. How do we fix this.
He should have taken his lawyers advice.
I almost vomited reading this abhorrent statement in its entirety. I’m still stunned, and very little about sexual impropriety in SV stuns me any more. This is a whole new level that I didn’t even think possible, and one of the sibling comments correctly points out that we will be talking about this for years, and years, and years.
This guy leaves and breathes in tech conferences, as he is a regular invited speaker/guest. I'm sure he had to see, read a million of "code of conducts". The fact he claims "I have no employees... I have no power" is...disgusting.
https://www.theverge.com/2017/10/25/16547332/robert-scoble-s...
Scoble has been called “one of the most influential players in the [tech] industry,” and one of the “top ten people to know in Silicon Valley.”
https://venturebeat.com/2015/01/28/5-things-silicon-valley-c...
The amount of love the tech community has for Robert Scoble is overwhelming. If the tech community were a country, Scoble would be its ambassador. Not only because we would want him to be, but because he truly knows more about the state of the global tech community than anyone else on planet Earth. I’ve known Scoble for seven years, and I’ve always been in awe of how much knowledge this man possesses about so many startups.
[...]
Lesson 5: Reciprocate
Due to his influential status, Scoble gets many perks from entrepreneurs around the world, just like most influencers do: Free gadgets, access to apps, invitations to visit conferences and stay in nice hotel rooms, and so on. These are usually forgotten by most influential figures in the Valley. However, Scoble never forgets these gestures and always acknowledges them — either through a Facebook post, tweet, or a reciprocal gesture. He doesn’t just take these benefits for granted like other folks of his caliber might.
Entrepreneurs, of course, appreciate this and remember him for it. Many of the activities throughout Scoble’s birthday for example, were contributed by individuals, due to their admiration for Scoble and appreciation of him.
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/richard-lorenzen/the-top-10-p...
3. Robert Scoble
Many people know Robert Scoble for his blog Scobleizer, which he wrote when he was working with Microsoft. Today, Scoble working for Rackspace and their sponsored community site Building 43, which focuses on highlighting and promoting cutting-edge startups and breakthrough technology. If you want to be featured in Silicon Valley, he is the individual to turn to. After all, his influence in the area is long-standing as Scoble grew up in Silicon Valley, just blocks away from Apple’s head office.
Again, if there was assault it's a totally different matter. But sexual harassment is a lower bar specifically because of the idea no one should have to work in a hostile work environment. You can't create a hostile work environment if you're not actually working with someone or exerting direct influence over their career?
Quinn's story was not at a 'work environment' so does it have any less impact? Why are you letting him adjust the narrative to define what he feels is harassment?
I don't really care what kind of narrative Scoble is trying to make. I have no knowledge of the specifics of his situation or his encounters, and couldn't care less about passing judgement on him.
But I was very curious about this idea that, which seems to be stated throughout this thread, someone can become so influential in an industry that any non-professional contact they have industry-wide could be sexual harassment.
And again, and again, I have to say, if there was assault that is just a completely different issue entirely.
https://www.flickr.com/photos/deanputney/sets/72157624362235...
Burning Man it ain't.
Scoble claims that any sexual advances he made lacked the necessary context to be considered sexual harassment. He may not even be wrong.
I referenced the UN fact sheet on "What is Sexual Harassment" in another comment but perhaps I should quote it directly;
Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature _when_ (emphasis added):
· Submission to such conduct is made either explicitly or implicitly a term or condition of an individual's employment, or
· Submission to or rejection of such conduct by an individual is used as a basis for employment decisions affecting such individual, or
· Such conduct has the purpose or effect of unreasonably interfering with an individual's work performance or creating an intimidating, hostile, or offensive working environment.
Q: Would I do $thing if this were at my office?
A: No.
Done.
What you do and don't do should not be tied entirely to work relation situations.
This is why we go to the trouble of defining a "sexual harassment" standard in the workplace, which holds coworkers to a higher standard of care than what is expected outside of the workplace.
Obviously we are not supposed to live our lives interacting with every other human purely professionally.
Dating is messy, complicated business. People get hurt. There is no magic ritual or length of time that will prevent that.
But I think the ivory tower condescension that if only men would follow this or that prescriptive approach is extremely damaging and even perpetuates the problem.
Really that's it. It applies everywhere. It applies to non-sexual harassment as well.
How far outside your social sphere are you supposed to be meeting or getting introduced to actual people who are interesting to you as a peer and potential romantic partner?
So it sounds like it's back to what I said earlier -- there's basically no social environment related to the tech industry where you think it would be alright for someone who happens to be influential in the tech sector to flirt with someone? But this seems to absolutely not be the definition of sexual harassment under the EEOC.
To try to remove some of the moral righteousness from it, lets assume we're talking about a single male, no wife or girlfriend, who is a well-known tech executive and blogger.
Literally three comments up from your own comment:
> If you are the keynote speaker of a conference, DO NOT flirt with other attendees or other coworkers, regardless of the line of report.
It appears like that moment had a lasting and significant impact on Michelle. [1] The repercussions as Michelle tells them are certainly terrible. I feel badly for Michelle and want to understand better what she experienced from her perspective.
That was certainly unwanted sexual contact. Was it sexual assault? Possibly. Was is sexual harassment? Possibly! All unwanted sexual contact is not actually automatically sexual harassment. [2]
[1] - https://www.buzzfeed.com/doree/woman-accuses-robert-scoble-o...
I feel like there's something I'm missing because, as recounted, his actions had such a strong and lasting impact to Greer.
Maybe this Scoble dude is just a nuclear style creep and just having to sit next to him is torturous. But that seems highly unlikely. I've never met the guy! I don't recall ever hearing him speak or watching a video of him even. So...
If I'm understanding the story, 4 people at a hotel bar drinking, one touching someone's leg. And what that led to, or possibly even caused -- I think it's fair to describe it as incredibly damaging? Obviously we want to avoid people being hurt like that. So, we construct social mores and civil law to try to prevent it from happening, and punish a small subset of offenders very harshly.
I'm a little stunned by all of it.
I think it would be great if it did. But then you would have to significantly restructure conferences to conform. Many of the official events of a conference are blatant violations of workplace behavior.
Now of course this is an absurd statement, but are their elements of truth in it? Quinn's account is Scoble and another woman were "making out" and that both were drunk. There was no question at all of Scoble's capacity to consent but Quinn felt she or her friend was able to determine the woman (who she doesn't know and apparently didn't talk to) was not able to consent, and claim that Scoble was minutes from raping her.
So, in short, a dumpster fire.
I assume there's nothing magical about a conference environment. In some cases the alleged harassment is occurring at bars where everyone is drinking alcohol. In another case it's a long-standing online chat relationship.
Where is the Harvey-esque influence peddling? I mean in that case is was more like straight-up blackmail.
Sometimes a guy will flirt with a girl and the feeling is not mutual. This happens quite frequently and it's not illegal or even wrong. Being an influential or powerful man (or woman!) doesn't make this wrong or illegal unless there is something more to it...
However the line isn't people being sexually harassed at work, it is people being sexually harassed at all. This isn't limited to drunkenly groping women at tech conferences or asking women you might potentially hire to shower with you. The problem is that your first romantic move with someone shouldn't be a grope or an offer to get naked. Simply don't behave in that manor until you know your actions will be received positively by the other person. It really isn't that difficult to simply treat people with empathy and think of their responses to your actions before you make them. If you do that you will never even get to the point of unwantedly groping someone.
It's a strawman that "your first romantic move with someone shouldn't be a grope or an offer to get naked." The reality is that ham-fisted proposals and hurtful rejection are rampant 'out there on the dance floor' and the purpose of sexual harassment policy is not, in fact, a idealized manual on how to behave in love and romance, but rules which apply exclusively in the workplace in order to ensure equality in the workplace.
If you're talking about sexual harassment outside of the workplace, then you're Doing It Wrong. If you're conflating poorly executed romantic endeavor with what is actually assault, that's even worse.
Please understand I'm engaging in the debate not to defend some asshole who I don't know and couldn't care two shits about, but I think there's a deeper meaning & understanding to be had here...
It seems to me, only from what little I've read about the man, that Scoble quite clearly is a jerk and an ass, and he owes quite a few people quite a few apologies. That much I most certainly am not debating!
I feel like we're on the cusp of a great wave of progress in the area. But I think if mere jerks and assholes are the new target, the inevitable backlash could set the whole movement back a decade.
If you're talking about harassment in general, umm... people are obnoxious to each other constantly and perpetually. Kumbaya let's make it all better? I don't think so!
Off the top, how many people here who are both under 30 and hack on something (hardware, wetware, anything) know who scoble is? I only vaguely remembered his name with effort, and even that may have been by analogy to somebody else.
In fact: the more I look into him, the more the expression "never-was" (as a more extreme form of "has-been") comes to mind. Just step through his wikipedia entry⁽¹⁾ and it'll be hard to disagree with the assessment:
> 4 Appearances
>
> In November, 2013, Scoble was co-keynote speaker with
> Shel Israel at the 2013 Telstra Australian Digital
> Summit. Scoble and Israel talked to their book titled
> "Age of Context: Mobile, Sensors, Data and the Future of
> Privacy".
read: noise. > On April 1, 2008, The Register ran an April fool’s spoof
> claiming Robert Scoble was actually an IBM bot.
read: a stumbling, college newspaper-esque exercise⁽²⁾ in retrofitting a disposable assignment (april 1) to trash-talk scoble openly. unambiguously dripping with disdain, really. > On November 14, 2007, he was a contestant on a game show
> at NewTeeVee Live […]
at what now? > [f]eaturing other internet celebrities such as Veronica
> Belmont, Casey McKinnon, Cali Lewis, Kevin Rose, Justin
> Kan, and others.
who? there are two tech names here, and zero celebrities. > On November 6, 2006, Scoble appeared as a panelist on a
> Chinese Software Professionals Association event called
> "The New Age of Influence: The Impact of Social Computing
> on Media and Marketing".
read: noise. > 5 Milliscoble
>
> In September 2008, Follow cost, a website which
> calculated how annoying it would be to follow anyone on
> Twitter, invented the milliscoble unit of measurement
> defined as: "1/1000 of the average daily Twitter status
> updates by Robert Scoble as of 10:09 CST September 25,
> 2008." At that time, Scoble was averaging 21.21 tweets
> per day, so a milliscoble is 0.02121 tweets per day. A
> person with a milliscoble rating of 1000 will be as
> annoying to follow as Scoble.
read: further open contempt of scoble as shitposter incarnate.So what do we have? A guy who had some kind of readership as a microsoft evangelist 13+ years ago, then circled the drain of ~web tv~ for a decade, then landed an Entrepreneur in Residence gig — read: unpaid internship⁽³⁾ — ultimately just circling a slightly newer, slightly shinier drain (VR).
One who, along the way, consciously uncoupled⁽⁴⁾ from all the content streams and personal branding whose maintenance constitute the entirety of an independent writing career. The blogger's own site, at .blog no less, is a contentless placeholder now.
We're left with some sorta phantasm of a now-defunct, still-not-tech personality: a never-was.
If the Ghostblogger of Milliscobles Past can kill your startup, your startup almost certainly didn't need to exist.
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¹ http://enwp.org/Robert_Scoble
² https://theregister.co.uk/2008/04/01/ibm_scoble_nano
³ https://scobleizer.blog/2016/05/17/mental-blocks-resource-co...
harassment is illegal when it is so frequent or severe that it creates a hostile or offensive work environment or when it results in an adverse employment decision (such as the victim being fired or demoted).
So I think he is responding to the second half of that definition, meaning it's not totally irrelevant.
For a client or customer's harassment to be illegal it would have to be "so frequent or severe it creates a hostile or offensive work environment".
Note that "offensive work environment" certainly doesn't mean someone was offended once.
Let me caveat this with I have read absolutely none of the accusations levied.
I do think that sexual harassment should be defined carefully. In some cases what people are describing as sexual harassment is actually assault and I think the two should be carefully distinguished.
What about when you are their boss, and in a position to fire them or affect their career if they don't engage or flirt back?
One of these can definitely be interpreted as sexual harassment (the situation where the person feels they have to accept the proposition or fear losing their job).
On the other hand, the situation where the two co-workers are on equal footing would only be considered sexual harassment if the flirting is unwelcome and continues even after it has been made clear that it is unwelcome.
The key difference is the fact that it is impossible to retrospectively prove or disprove whether or not the relationship was actually consensual, when one person is in a superior position and can making hiring/firing decisions or affect the other person's career.
Or at least that's my interpretation of the point that I believe Scoble was making.
He wasn't in a hiring/firing position or superior position to affect the careers any of the women when they engaged in the illicit behavior with him. It was consensual behavior between peers, and as such, does not automatically count as sexual harassment (even if he was being an unethical slimeball and cheating on his wife).
This is an incredibly disgusting and miss-guided view of sexual harassment.
Setting aside power imbalances of physical nature (i.e. alone in an elevator), I think he's mostly accurate? Unwelcome advances in a situation where there is little possibility of harm to the woman should she reject you are just unwelcome advances. Maybe creepy, maybe rude, maybe disgusting. But they're not abuse, and they're not sexual harassment.
I think that's clearly the goalpost he's comparing his behaviour to.
No.
here's the EU definition:
http://eur-lex.europa.eu/LexUriServ/LexUriServ.do?uri=CONSLE...
> harassment: where an unwanted conduct related to the sex of a person occurs with the purpose or effect of violating the dignity of a person, and of creating an intimidating, hostile, degrading, humiliating or offensive environment,
> sexual harassment: where any form of unwanted verbal, non-verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature occurs, with the purpose or effect of violating the dignity of a person, in particular when creating an intimidating, hostile, degrading, humiliating or offensive environment.
Here's the English law:
https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2010/15/contents
https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2010/15/section/26
> 1)A person (A) harasses another (B) if—
> (a)A engages in unwanted conduct related to a relevant protected characteristic, and
> (b)the conduct has the purpose or effect of—
> (i)violating B's dignity, or
> (ii)creating an intimidating, hostile, degrading, humiliating or offensive environment for B.
> (2)A also harasses B if—
> (a)A engages in unwanted conduct of a sexual nature, and
> (b)the conduct has the purpose or effect referred to in subsection (1)(b)
There's nothing in there about power imbalance.
Just like on HN the guidelines are to take the most charitable interpretation possible of what someone wrote when responding, I think it's best to apply the same process when critiquing TFA.
Once you get past all that sexual harassment stuff, there's some really exciting news in that article we're discussing, that I think most people have overlooked!
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The other is where a person in a superior position uses that position in order to gain sexual favors from a subordinate. This is like the Weinstein allegations where he demanded they shower with him or they would never work in Hollywood again. That seems to be the type of harassment he is defending against. After reading the article, I didn't find anything in there that fit either of these definitions.
Yeah, because this is him trying to change the story and narrative. Go actually read the stories on his accusations and you'll see they are forms of sexual harassment.
This is not true and it does not look good for him to say it:
The legal and social understanding of sexual harassment, however, varies by culture.
In the context of US employment, the harasser can be the victim's supervisor, a supervisor in another area, a co-worker, or someone who is not an employee of the employer, such as a client or customer, and harassers or victims can be of any gender.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_harassment
But, I do generally agree that two wrongs don't make a right. I am pretty appalled to hear that he had an online text-based affair with a woman who outed him to his wife for apparently vindictive reasons.
I don't know how we move this discussion forward into constructive territory. I see this at least partly through the lens of massive social changes disrupting the rules and neither side having a good play book. I challenge commenters here to find something constructive to say and avoid just wallowing in the mud here.
The content makes child-like arguments[0] and contradictory statements[1] to the point where it feels like an unstable foundation to have a conversation. It's like trying to have a debate where neither side agrees with the foundational logic of the other sides arguments.
[0] - "None of the women who came forward were ever in a position where I could make or break their careers. Sexual Harassment requires that I have such power"
[1] - "Perhaps because they felt peer pressure to join the #MeToo bandwagon, perhaps because they felt slighted for other reasons. I won’t speculate on their motives."
This whole thing opens with the classic of all scumbag apologies, “I’m sorry for how you feel.” I’m not sure that this is much of a jumping off point for good discussion, as much as it is just another one biting the dust in the messiest way possible. Where does a constructive conversation begin here? With someone covering their ass in a blog post against their lawyers advice? With a bunch of people on HN opining about something that has been an open fact of life for many people, especially women, for longer than any of us of been alive?
The solutions aren’t that difficult, they just take time and consistent desire and willingness by legislature and business leaders to follow through. So far that desire has been largely absent, and with recent revelations it’s not hard to see why.
So, enlighten me: Point me to a list of not difficult solutions with proven track records of success, if only we get off our lazy butts and bother to do them.
1) Include women equally in the work force.
2) Protect all parties from both sexual impropriety and scandal without simply presuming women are victims, men are predators.
I am not aware of well developed policies for preventing such dramas. And I have read quite a lot on human sexuality, sex abuse, rape and illicit affairs. As much as possible, I sought out reliable sources that involved serious studies.
Telling me to vote (but not for Trump) is utterly unrelated to my question.
"Most telling however is that she makes it clear that her assault of me was premeditated."
There's nothing about her account that suggests this.
Nope. According to Quinn, on her medium post, Scoble put one hand on her breast, then a reach around, ending in a butt grab.
> And then, without any more warning, Scoble was on me. I felt one hand on my breast and his arm reaching around and grabbing my butt. Scoble is considerably bigger than I am, and I realized quickly I wasn’t going to be able to push him away. Meanwhile, the people around just watched, in what I can only imagine was stunned shock. I got a hand free and used a palm strike to the base of his chin to knock him back. It worked, he flew back and struggled to get his feet under him. I watched his feet carefully for that moment. He was unbalanced from the alcohol and I realized if he reached for me again I could pull him forward, bounce his face off my knee, then drive it into the ground. (I knew this move because it had been done to me, then the martial arts expert who did it picked me up and apologetically showed me how to do it.)
Source: Robert Scoble and Me ( @quinnnorton on medium.com ) => https://medium.com/@quinnnorton/robert-scoble-and-me-9b14ee9...
In the interest of being the devil's advocate: if he is telling the truth, this looks very bad for several of the women that accused him of sexual harassment, and tried to inflate his cheating on his wife into something much worse.
I mean, this sounds a lot like how some women accuse guys of rape just to cause harm to them, instead of a rape actually having occurred. Such actions are harmful to women, harmful to society as a whole, and actively work against the ideals of feminism and make it harder for feminists to have a meaningful dialog with both men and women alike.
If his version of events is even remotely true, merely saying "two wrongs don't make a right" isn't even scratching the surface, and indicates a very large problem in the tech industry community.
I have no clue if they are true, or how true they are, but I believe that because he disregarded his lawyer's advice and made a statement, there is at least a little bit of truth here.
Of course, we can still wait for this to make it's way through court, but I feel your defensiveness is too strong in the other direction, going straight to accusing all the women of being liars.
Quinn Norton’s account of her interactions with Scoble has been corroborated by multiple witnesses and it drastically disagrees with Scoble’s account: https://twitter.com/willoremus/status/923257035742781440
Layers advise clients to remain silent even if they are 100% innocent because talking almost always makes things worse.
It was deliberately crafted to be so. So if we want to apply some science to our guessing: what is the fraction of real harrassment incidents to fraudulently reported ones in our society?
You can "some women" and "because he disgregarded" your way around the disembling, but the truth is that if you really want to guess based on the evidence at hand, the guy is probably guilty.
[0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_accusation_of_rape#Rumne...
If I were to believe the personal experiences of all the women I know, most women have, at some point in their lives been harassed. I've had 20 #mee_toos on my relatively small Facebook feed.
Not a single one of them ever mentioned reporting the harassment they experienced to authorities, filing a lawsuit, writing a blog post on Medium, calling out the harasser on social media, or anything of that nature.
For another anecdote:
Two months ago, though, one friend has been tip-toeing around how to deal with a serial rapist in their friend circle. They didn't go to the police, because nothing would get done, and they didn't call that person out in public. They weren't looking for attention, or to ruin the rapist's life. They were practically tip-toeing around the issue of how to warn other women about him.
Unsurprisingly, of the many responses to that thread, three people knew exactly who she was talking about.
To give you an idea of what it’s about, it starts with “I have rejected my lawyer’s advice to not make a statement”
I don't think he's nearly famous enough for anything he says to be talked about years later. He'll most likely be forgotten, there are plenty of other pitchmen in the Valley to take his role.
I would put money on this being used in future education as an example of why you should listen to your lawyers when they say "don't make a statement". Because it is a classic.
This part caught my eye as contradictory. Privacy doesn't matter unless it's <something I care about>? I think that's precisely why privacy matters, and everyone has a different list of things that matter to them.
Sadly, Scoble has not (yet?) come to that realization. I hope he stops talking long enough to realize his own pain, as excruciating as it is, isn't the story here. It's the pain he caused to others, and is continuing to cause with his self-righteousness.
This isn't he-said/she-said. It's he-said/they-said, where many witness corroborate the other side of stories he tries to reframe. When even his own false reframing of stories makes him sound like a troubled terrible actor, that ought to have been a sign to him to not hit publish.
To be fair, if he had that amount of empathy and self-reflection, he wouldn't be in this situation.
How watching porn equates to cheat on your wife? Very weird moral compass.
It's kind of a strange mea culpa, to be honest, as even in the most socially progressive of circles, pornography is a very divisive topic, with many finding it degrading and many finding it liberating.
edit: added a comma after "circles"
Also, U.S seem to have strange views on what is sexual assault. I don't know who is quilt or who is lying, but reading some of them are things I would avoid women over the ocean all together.
Are you getting it confused with sexual harassment? which we are also talking about in this thread.
If you have power, many things can be considered harassment, which is different than assault. It's similar to the reasoning behind prohibiting psychological therapists from engaging in sexual acts with their patients.
Really, it's pretty simple. Make sure a person can give consent. Don't abuse your status to obtain sex. Don't rape.
For the second point, you're confusing sexual harassment and sexual assault.
In the USA, even rape is often questioned as rape. We've had national politicians make false claims about "legitimate rape," and how rare that was.
In no case whatsoever is there any idea that "regret = rape," and if you've been led to believe that about the USA, you've been in some very disturbing places on the internet.
Oh this always works out well.
It's kind of interesting that his focus is still to "heal" himself. So self centered in this fake apology.
Not a great sign to open your defense by arguing about definitions rather than factual claims.
Please do not read this as justifying any particular behavior. I just think it's really important to at least try to understand each other even when we may vehemently disagree. We can't do that if don't know what each other means when using the language we do. Looking through the comments on this topic, I see at least some of the disagreement coming from people talking past each other or not using words in the same way.
https://i.imgur.com/kH6DsGA.png
"Robert Scoble: Andrew Brackin I have NOT deleted ANY comments. They may have deleted them. I did not."
That was a bald faced lie. He's deleted a whole hell of a lot of comments, along with his original non-apology-apology.
https://techcrunch.com/2017/10/20/robert-scoble-has-allegedl...
"Update: Scoble has since deleted his original apology and now posted a lengthy rebuttal to the reporting done by TechCrunch and other publications on his personal site."
“[…] I have rejected my lawyer’s advice to not make a statement […] None of the women who came forward were ever in a position where I could make or break their careers. Sexual Harassment requires that I have such power. […] Each of the women who have come forward used grains of truth to sell false narrative. Perhaps because they felt peer pressure to join the #MeToo bandwagon, perhaps because they felt slighted for other reasons. I won’t [sic] speculate on their motives. […] And to some extent [I] did take advantage of [her]; […] ”
He should have listened to his lawyer, but I'm glad he didn't.
It's also rather pointless to nitpick legal definitions of sexual harassment when the guy starts by mentioning he rejected his lawyer's advice.
> Robert Scoble … is an American blogger, technical evangelist, and author. Scoble is best known for his blog, Scobleizer, which came to prominence during his tenure as a technology evangelist at Microsoft. He later worked for Fast Company as a video blogger, and then Rackspace and the Rackspace-sponsored community site Building 43 promoting breakthrough technology and startups. He is a partner at Transformation Group and a noted evangelist in the immersive media industries.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_Scoble
There have been discussions related to this here recently. One is https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=15519902
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All it takes is to understand that everyone's idea of what constitutes "harassment" is different, and to behave (or at least try) at a global minima. It's sad that he realizes that his moral compass is broken, yet seems to relish making the same "mistake" over and over again.
I claim to know nothing about what actually happened between this guy and these women, and all of the armchair judges here that are jumping to conclusions ought to realize that they, too, know nothing.
I was listening to a program on NPR the other day, and the guest was somehow bemoaning the fact that when individuals make claims of being victimized, they are met with a reserved skepticism rather than accepting support.
What was totally missing from this discussion--what the host failed to challenge on--was that what this guest was proposing in fact was abandoning an innocent until proven guilty assumption in favor of a guilty until proven innocent assumption, which is dangerous and immoral. It is appropriate to be skeptical, because such a claim is very serious and potentially damaging. And such claims should be held up to rigorous scrutiny. I say this not without empathy for victims, being a victim of sexual assault myself, but as someone who has also seen how vicious and destructive these witchhunts can be.
I have a colleague who was wrongly accused of sexual assault (I know because I was essentially there and saw what actually transpired), and I've seen how completely destructive it can be personally and career-wise.
I also have been accused, through not-so-veiled insinuations (of course, not being explicit allowed her to sidestep any challenges, because there's nothing to actually challenge), of harassment by a vindictive ex who was jealous of my new relationship, and have seen what happens when colleagues, who you thought were friends, blindly accept these sorts of claims without looking into both sides of the story.
It's horrifying to watch this happen, and to me only undermines real victims by casting a shadow of doubt over their claims from others.
My experience is that this issue is far darker than anyone wants to acknowledge, and as much as there is problems with sexual assault, there are also problems with vindictive slander capitalizing on people's prejudices, to avoid personal responsibility. The horrific stories of Harvey Weinstein have turned into a witch-hunt against men that is equally horrifying en masse.
I know nothing other than what I've read online, but it seems that his accusers are not complaining about him cheating, but rather that he sexually harassed them:
https://medium.com/@quinnnorton/robert-scoble-and-me-9b14ee9...
Specifically:
> And then, without any more warning, Scoble was on me. I felt one hand on my breast and his arm reaching around and grabbing my butt. Scoble is considerably bigger than I am, and I realized quickly I wasn’t going to be able to push him away.
I am not saying I know who is or isn't telling the truth, but this definitely isn't just about someone conflating cheating with sexual harrassment.
Assuming you didn't do these evil deeds, having video or audio proof(if legal in your jurisdiction) is really the only way to counter them.
Otherwise, what do you say? "No, I didn't rape/sexually assault this person". The accusation alone is salacious enough that a mere denial isn't going to change anyone's mind.
And I would say that the women's accusations, if true, would be bolstered if they had video/audio evidence of it.
Well, the traditional solution to this is to just cross-examine the accusers about the cut of their skirt, whether or not they had any idea what they were doing when you invited them to the hotel room, how many casual sexual partners they had, and all sorts of other bullshit that's completely irrelevant to whether or not they were raped or harassed.
It tends to work pretty well for people who are actually guilty, it should work even better for the innocent.
If you are a public figure, and you never sexually assaulted anyone, yet multiple people were accusing you in public of doing so, how (if at all) would you defend yourself?
(It's one of the reasons why people think twice about accusing the guilty.)
> First, the plaintiff must prove that the defendant made a false and defamatory statement concerning the plaintiff.
How do you prove that you didn't sexually assault someone 5 years ago? Gee, a recording of all of your interactions would come in handy here.
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