You can't really reduce the net weight whilst carrying gross weight beyond a point because the structure won't cope with holding the cargo. Maybe you can optimise some of it out but whether a human presses pedals/turns wheels or a computer does is relatively immaterial towards the net weight of the vehicle structure. Autonomy won't play a big role in that compared with improved design and materials.
Also, remember that roads aren't made out of head-hardened solid steel - if they were, they'd probably nearly forever.
Rail itself may not get quickly damaged (though they do) however rail wheels, which are made of relatively softer metal, develop all kinds of damage, require the machining away of the damaged surface periodically (as in, wheels shrink over time as mateiral is cut off it to get to new metal below) and only last a matter of years for heavy haul environments:
http://www.asa.transport.nsw.gov.au/sites/default/files/asa/...
Search for spalling, shelling and rolling contact fatigue as examples.