Reading your comments was an uncomfortable reminder of my 2.5 years in Portland in tech (and I had family there). I was like, "this is probably Seattle"

I already knew you were in Seattle from your other comments before I scrolled down to this one.

Just move to New York.

I knew it was Seattle the instant I read your comment. I consider myself very fortunate to have married before I moved here, because all anecdotes I've heard suggest the dating scene is miserable, doubly so if you're in tech.

Figured it was a longshot, I'm on the other coast. I struggled to make friends when I moved away from university too, I'm pretty introverted and don't really like going out to bars/clubs, and frankly don't get along with the same personality type I always seem to meet at local game shops/meetups. I guess I'd suggest cultivating those work friendships, I've personally met some cool friends-of-coworkers who became friends. For instance, I invited a few coworkers hiking last year and they invited some friends, some of whom I connected with. But most of my friends here I met in really strange circumstances without trying at all- like a woman who my roommate shared a lyft with and initially intended to date.