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I'm 45, no kids, by choice. It's not because of my career, it's just because of the life I choose to live. I would simply not live a single day of my life the same if I had children. I do live every single day of my life as I choose (and like).

If you have kids, you don't have that choice anymore. You can adjust your needs, your expectations to the presence of kids... but it's a different story, isn't it?

For me, it's all about freedom. YMMV

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I think its the difference between committing to one large choice over the long term vs. the flexibility to have many small choices over time.

I am sorry for you, because you'll never experience unconditional love in this life...

Can't say that. Maybe he has a dog.

Unfortunately it is not the same...

Glad if you're happy with your life, but don't be sorry for me, I'm very happy with mine.

Also, thinking about what unconditional love may be, and reading a bit about it, doesn't entice me to change my mind (it's very badly defined...)

I'm a parent, but even love of a child is not "unconditional". There are too many ugly counterexamples to easily disprove that. The bond between parent and child is special, for sure, but I do believe you can build such bonds with people that are not your offspring - you just have to spend a ridiculous amount of time together and sacrifice a lot for them and that's rare for people that aren't your children (because you're not biologically programmed to do it).

Agreed, everything is possible, but how likely to happen with someone who is not your child (either biological or adopted), as you said it is very rare indeed...

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