Recently there was an article somewhere of people living in France and Belgium and commuting to London!
My commute is simpler, I cycle to the station, which is an end station so the train is always there, take a train for 1.15h to Waterloo station, then walk to the office. I am asleep on the way in and hack away on the way home. I am usually home before 7pm.
The key to stressless long commutes is avoiding multiple connections and no waiting for a train, tube or bus. Also paying for your mental sanity such as near station parking and 1st class tickets also ensures less frustrating commutes.
Kids are the reason I now live this far out (as opposed to my old 20 minutes commute). But I also take a lot of holidays, 1 or 2 days WFH a week, and long breaks between jobs/clients/projects.