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Thanks for saying this--too often people hand-wave away others' problems though, ironically, they may end up inheriting them. Your comment reminded me about an article on how Millennial women are conflicted about being breadwinners. [1] Between chuckling about how I (a Millennial guy) have said many of the quotes nearly verbatim, it dawned on me that as we approach equality in the workplace these women are being now being exposed to what were classically "man problems." I think guys are mostly familiar with those, but I think we also mostly conditioned or compelled endure it in silence, which may lend to the idea that there are "no extra obstacles" for us.

So yes, let's be sympathetic to each others' problems and avoid demonizing each other...you never know, it could end up being your problem.

[1] http://www.refinery29.com/2017/04/148488/millennial-women-ar...

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Haha! On point. I can identify with that article. Man, there's this wonderful quote about this I wish I could find, about how women were somehow sold the idea that the working world, the land of heart attacks and ulcers, was where the real awesomeness in life was happening, and where they wanted to be.

There's this documentary that I just love on this topic. This lady decides she wants to see what the world of men is like, and goes undercover and lives as one for eighteen months. And at the end of it, she emerges with such a tangible sense of compassion for men and their problems. They have all these difficulties that they don't talk about!, she says. It's so sweet. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ip7kP_dd6LU

We're playing with powerful forces, here, what with women entering the workforce in unprecedented numbers, and encountering unprecedented success. Historical, cultural forces. Biological forces. Psychological forces. I think we're making the world a better place, but this tale that it's a simple struggle between good and evil, and women and men . . . the world is more complicated than that. We don't need to take out our frustrations on each other. We need all our combined strength and wisdom. We should proceed with empathy and understanding and compassion.

For what it's worth, I think you guys are awesome. Hugs from an internet stranger. :)

That's a really fascinating documentary. Interesting to see a woman analyzing male issues from a first-hand perspective, haha! I did think it was a little funny at the end, the guy saying "this will be revolutionary" but today it's mostly the same, though I do believe things are slowly getting better for both sides.

You're pretty alright :) Have a good evening!

a bit of a clarification. your youtube link:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ip7kP_dd6LU

is not actually a "documentary." norah vincent wrote a book about her 18 months living as a man, and this is a news report about that experience.

i read the book, many years ago. really good. well worth the time investment.

Is Millennial Guy the (relatively mundane) sequel to Bicentennial Man?

"In Millennial Guy, the highly-anticipated sequel to Bicentennial Man, a blogger living in a world where robots seek humanity seeks to become a robot, but spends his time arguing about it on the internet instead, ultimately never achieving his goal. Instead, he waits for his break as an internet "thought leader" while living with his disappointed parents, then he dies."

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