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Its only a problem if the other party is not into you, figuring out the ends sorts out the means. There have also been instances where the other party recoils and indicts the proposal. It is the reality of life even though some might disagree.

Nonetheless, workplace relationship is emotionally dicey and avoiding it is a safer bet.

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> Its only a problem if the other party is not into you,

You're part of the problem.

This is a useless reply, and it has become pervasive. Technically anyone not a part of the solution is part of the problem. Instead maybe clarify on what you find objectionable to help everyone out, including parent.

In what way is OP 'part of the problem'? If the other party wishes to also pursue a romantic relationship - what's the problem?

I can't speak for OP, but let me ask you this. Suppose your sister is in the back of a police vehicle, on her way to jail. Would you rather the cop who is driving that vehicle be told

A) It's okay to flirt with suspects/criminals if they are into you

B) It's never okay to flirt with suspects/criminals and you will lose your job if you do

Obviously the second.

If its your sister, if the police flirt with her, she will probably have an easier time in jail, maybe able to get preferential treatment. Good if you are the guilty criminal. So A.

If she is a suspect, then she would feel pressured to go along with the police's advances, because of the risk of retaliation for knocking back advances. So, B.

But for the victim of your sister's crime, she will want justice to be served, and will definitely go for B.

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