Sure the grid is a bottle neck, but it is a bottle neck that can be fixed. Aging infrastructure is the problem, not the grid per-se, it just happens to have older and less well maintained segments.
> The Grid has to match the production and demand
No, the grid transports power from places where it is generated to places where it is consumed. Whether the consumer is local or remote is not that important other than that you'll incur some more losses.
Demand matching is the job of powerplants that can change their output power quickly.
> and at times that is why CA gives away electricity to AZ and pay for AZ for consuming its electricity.
That's because there simply is an excess of power in CA and shedding it to AZ is cheaper than shunting it locally.
> A tanker with LNG is much more flexible and denser form of energy than photons to electrons..
Of course it isn't. That LNG tanker needs a port and it needs a plant to convert the LNG to electricity. LNG is hamburger, electricity is steak.
> Once electrons out they need to be consumed asap!
There also exist load leveling measures using superconducting loops, these are used for windfarms whose output can change very rapidly especially when they're on the end of anemic grid infrastructure (remote location), these can be used for solar as well.