Trading is a 0 sum game. It's the same as playing in the casino. The only one who makes money consistently with trading is:
. your broker
. people holding illegal priviledged info not released yet in the media
. big funds, tricking people like you
In the long term, the value of stocks follow the profits which companies have, If you manage to learn how to do value investing, slowly and calmly, never really selling the companies you commit yourself to, while focusing at your work(which usually pays way more than what you can earn in the stock market).
I think generally people are addicted to losing, to having the thrill of winning/losing something, but when actually, if you want to get rich and consistently become wealthier, there's no thrill and it's a quite boring road. It's up to you which one you could take. The internet is full of forums with crazy people which pretend to be traders and winners but they are all actually addicted to the thrill and losing. Just check how much people are crazy about failed businesses and penny stocks. I wouldn't bet my money or even less something more important: the peace of my mind into this crap.
I want you to answer me a question: how anxious are you? I think a lot. You even came to HN to talk about your loss. I think you are one of the people who will never win on this game, but can actually win in life. You just need to learn how to control it.
I've been managing to grow my assets slowly for years. Have been enough time in the market. If you want to know more, shoot me an e-mail. I won't tell you what stock to buy, but guide you so you can make your own choices. I can already live a few years without working, but I'm so satisfied with my life that I don't have to. I travel every year and so on... and don't even make that crazy software dev salary some people in the US can.
Also... practice Sports. The more you live, the more money you can make.
I used to be very sick about trading and so on. Now I'm healthier, wealthier, less anxious and everything.