Is this really a distinction your "scrappy startup type" can afford to make?
> Although since version 3.4.x Mongo passes all Jepsen tests, when our original database was chosen the current version of Mongo at the time did not and was deemed unreliable by the team
Does not pass all Jepsen tests => deeemed unreliable :( Wow. Of all possible reasons, THAT'S the reason MongoDB wasn't chosen? Jepsen, man. Pretty sad so many people just look at Jepsen results like this. Jepsen, really, is about the tests more than the results. It highlights various failure modes that may be difficult or uncommon to replicate in production. These failure modes are important to know about to understand the product you are using, but are not really the end-all when it comes to deciding whether that product is worth using!
Anyway, show me a database that passes Jepsen and I'll show you a database that only accepts writes to a single node.