if you're interested, the best book on the subject that i've read is "the way of tarot" by jodorowsky (yes that jodorowsky).
If I can't seem to decide between A or B, I flip a coin. If, in doing so, the answer is A, one of three things happens: I find I like the answer, and it turns out it was my preference all along. I find I prefer B after all, and just didn't realize it. Or, I really don't care in which case the coin flip was as good an answer as any I could've come to.
The coin didn't tell me anything. But by forcing a decision it revealed something I didn't consciously understand.
I plan to write a bit more about this, but I haven't got around it yet. In the meantime, everyone interested in using I-Ching (or any other kind of "oracle device") to re-evaluate your options can read this: https://aeon.co/essays/forget-prophecy-the-i-ching-is-an-unc...
I have to say it also, just the practice of re-evaluation of my own opinions and feelings, has helped me to be more honest with myself and the people I care about regarding my feelings -- shirking the old "stiff upper lip" until I'm miserable again. It's freeing, even if the practicals don't change on the timeline you want.
A PSYCHOLOGICAL TIP
Whenever you're called on to make up your mind,
and you're hampered by not having any,
the best way to solve the dilemma, you'll find,
is simply by spinning a penny.
No -- not so that chance shall decide the affair
while you're passively standing there moping;
but the moment the penny is up in the air,
you suddenly know what you're hoping.I remember a woman volunteering to give me a reading. The question I wanted divined was about "relationships", the answer she interpreted from the lay of the cards was "work".
I leaned back and thought, "Perhaps the relationship thing will take it's own course, I should be thinking about getting my financial house in order."
And so it did and so I did.
The approach of mentally asking a question or thinking about something such as "my future" and then selecting a random card gives you one of 78 different lenses through which to think about that topic. From there your mind takes over and does the rest of the work to figure out if that particular symbolic lens applies to the subject at hand, and sometimes it helps you to realize things that you already had subconsciously.
I'm solidly in the "soft" camp mentioned in the article, but I'm also pretty into tarot, enough that I've gotten a large half sleeve tattoo that features various tarot cards that I felt were especially meaningful at various points in my life. I plan to continue it as I experience life events that I think are meaningful enough to be associated with a card from the deck.