Hacker News Reader

Comment by naikrovek | Hacker News Reader

If covered by insurance, speak to a therapist weekly. Unless you are in one of a handful of professions, your work is nothing that warrants this amount of stress. No one is going to die.

There's tons of things that happen at an employer that are wrong, and that are stupid and that are complete nonsense.

There are things that you must simply let slide. Things that truly do not matter. Very few things REALLY matter. Very few things, and none of those things are the day-to-day work life.

Speak to a therapist regularly for a few years. One that specializes in trauma survivors.

View on HN

I second this. I've seen both therapists and coaches of various types a number of times over the years, and have found it to be tremendously helpful in getting me through a number of rough/challenging patches.

It's really nice to have someone to talk to who has no vested interest in any part of your life. You can vent to them without having to worry about pissing anyone off or it getting around to anyone. A good therapist or a coach can offer a fairly unbiased outside opinion and even strategies for dealing with things that come up in your life.

The biggest thing to remember is that it's important to find someone who is right for you. There are a lot of people out there, and each has his or her own personality and style. Finding a therapist is a lot like dating in certain ways, so don't be afraid to move on if it isn't working for you.

Unless you are in one of a handful of professions, your work is nothing that warrants this amount of stress. No one is going to die.

Isn't that kind of stress supposed to impair performance? I'd think that keeping not-stressed would be even more important if people's lives were in question.

I'd second this, even if insurance doesn't cover it and you can find a way to pay for it.

I'd also recommend trying something like an intensive therapeutic seminar: https://www.themeadows.com/workshops/survivors-i-workshop

If you don't like therapy, maybe something like Landmark: http://www.landmarkworldwide.com

Some people put down therapy and taking care of themselves in general, my guess is because it takes alot of courage to actually address dysfunction with themselves. I've been that person at times too, in general though I've tried alot of these things and I don't regret having gone through them and I felt better coming through the other side of my own shit.

Strongly recommend avoiding Landmark and things like it. At least extensively research it. Landmark has a reputation for psychologically abusing and damaging participants. It has the flavour of an a-religious for-profit cult. Here's one story of many: http://www.motherjones.com/politics/2009/08/landmark-42-hour...

Reply on news.ycombinator.com