> it seems to me that both sides are afraid that if the other side wins they will try to force their lifestyle on them; and I think they are probably right.

...it's not really that simple, though. It's not like you're picking two discrete options. Let's take a viewpoint like pro-choice/pro-life. A society that permits abortions doesn't prevent an individual from choosing not to have one. A woman who thinks abortion is immoral is free to hold and practice that belief herself...the "lifestyle" of being pro-choice is not forced upon her. Contrast that with a society that bans abortion.